First Date Tips For Men

This first date tips for men article was written to give you some first date advice.

So, you have found someone you find really interesting and you have decided to meet for that all important first date.  You have fixed a venue, somewhere with a good atmosphere but still gives you chance to have a chat and hear yourself think.  You have fixed a time and day and all is looking good.

Have the nerves set in yet?  As you get closer they probably will.  This is only natural, we all feel nervous when facing the unknown especially when we are meeting people we do not know but there are things you can think about and plan before your date to make you feel more confident and come across as a really interesting person.

Let’s look at some first date tips for men, to get you started

What will you be wearing? - It doesn’t have to be expensive just suitable for the place that you are going and something that is perhaps your favourite outfit to make you feel more comfortable.  Make sure it is clean a few days before the date, you do not want to be washing and drying it at the last moment, this will only make things more rushed and stressed.

How are you getting there? - Sounds silly but please think about this beforehand and leave plenty of time for travel.  If you want your date to get off to the best start then you need to be there slightly early.  To be late is a huge no, no.  It gives out the signals that you do not care about the date or the person you are meeting; and you will probably appear flustered and that makes you appear less confident.  No amount of excuses; be it traffic, taxis, alarm clock or air traffic control will make up for the less than wonderful start.

Topics for conversation - If you have been emailing your proposed date for a little while then chances are that you know a little bit about them; but have some questions in your mind to ask to start a conversation with.  Anything about their job, family, home, career aspirations and hobbies is a good place to start.  Please do not ask about romantic history or past relationships.  Too much too soon, keep the conversation light and interesting.  Ask questions beginning with “why”, “where”, “how” and “when”.  That way someone has to answer with a longer answer than just “yes”, or “no” which will give you details to keep the conversation going.

Listening hard - Listening is absolutely essential and one of the most important first date tips you can master.  Most of the time people use the time when the other person is speaking to plan in their head what they want to say next, and in doing so don’t really take in what the other person is saying.  Listen to every single word your date is saying.  It will give you clues as to what you might have in common and also will give you information about them that you can ask more detail about.  This keeps the conversation going and having someone’s total and undivided attention is very, very sexy.

Money -Whatever your thoughts are on paying for the whole date, for the first one you need to be prepared to pay for everything without cringing.  Your date may offer to go “dutch” or pay for something during the date. It is up to you if you want to accept the offer.  Do not worry, this does not mean you will pay for every date.  If the man pays for the whole date then she will feel that you can be relied upon financially.  You can decide if they are a gold digger once you get to know them a bit better.

Saying goodbye - If you are not planning to see someone again, please do not tell them you will call or contact them.  Thank them for their time and say you have enjoyed it but say you are just not looking for a serious relationship at the moment and wish them luck. No one likes to be lead on, so be honest from the start. This may be a little hard to do at first but you will actually get more respect from doing so, than lying from the start.

Tips for first date summary

These first date tips for men are simple but really affective. Just remember, no matter how attractive your date is, make sure they can get home safely with no more than just a peck on the cheek. If you like your date, then a promise to call them will keep them interested, especially if they feel the same about you.  After all isn’t the thrill of the chase just as good as the rest.

If you follow these first date advice and be the perfect gentleman, then you should have no problem getting a second date.

Happy dating and good hunting!